- Step 1 - Get knocked up. No really, that has to happen first. Wellll, I guess you could do some research first, or while you are waiting on that magical plus sign. But really, there is no birth without a baby. But I guess you already knew that, huh? (Aren't I witty? Feel free to laugh out loud at your screen.)
- Step 2- Pee on a stick. Oh, is this getting old now? Oh, alright. Do you always have to ruin the fun tiny little voice in my head, that sounds suspiciously a lot like my sister?
Really though, your first step is to research.
- Step 1. Research.Then research some more. Read books, look at studies, stalk online pregnancy forms, watch documentaries and way too graphic Youtube home birth videos. Then make your significant other do it too. They will love it, trust me. * insert evil laugh here*
Speaking of that significant other, now is the time for the next step.
- Step 2- Getting your partner on board, if they aren't already. I have it on good authority that this isn't something you want to do if you don't have a support system.
- Step 3- find a midwife. I made it sound so simple didn't I?
Chances are that even if there is a midwife near you, you might not be able to find her online or in the phone book. So how do obtain an elusive midwife? You get clever.
There are some midwives listed online, but even then they can still take some internet digging to find. You are likely to have some success by calling any local Bradly teachers ( or a natural child birthing class teacher in your area). They are a great resource to help you to get in touch with any local home birth community in the area. You can even try health food stores, or asking your OBGYN.
Luckily, I was able to find our midwife by doing an internet search. Shortly after that though, I found the number for the local Bradly instructor, and boy did she give me the scoop. I think we talked for almost and hour. I was under the impression that I only had the option of the one midwife, but it turns out that there are 2-3 other midwives that are willing to come out my way.
Next up is..
- Step 4. Interviewing your chosen midwifes. It is best to try and interview two or three, but that may not be an option if midwives are scarce near you. For more info on interviewing a midwife click Here. But know it breaks down into four parts. Will she come to your area, her experience and knowledge, price, and how well do you click with her.
- Step 5. Hire your midwife. This can take place as soon as you get your positive pregnancy test, or you can wait to confirm it with your family doctor or OBGYN before giving your midwife a call. It is also fine if you are further along and have been seeing a doctor, to switch to a midwife if you prefer. Heck, some women even "cheat" on their doctors with their midwife and see both through out their pregnancy. I always wonder what those doctors think when their 40 week patient never checks in at the hospital.
That's it! You are now on your way to your homebirth. From here on out its all about prep work. Preparing to deal with labor, preparing for the birth itself, and preparing for your baby. But that's a whole other post...